You do not have to be Good

You do not have to be Good

It was the anniversary of my brother’s death and I found myself unusually emotional.  I have managed to focus on the silver linings of his death.  Silver linings may sound insensitive, morbid even, but the thought of knowing he is safe has profoundly ruled over my grief.  I found this day was different; as if it finally sunk in he was gone.  I needed an explanation, a distraction and another silver lining to get me through the day.

I began my journey with the distraction of work.  There people in their most vulnerable state surround me.  These people, like Beau, are looking for their purpose, their meaning, and their place in the world.  A group had gathered and a poem was shared. I listened to the rhythmic words flow over me, offering an overwhelming sense of relief, as if this poem was written for Beau and me.  The poem began with “You do not have to be good”.  Members in the group echoed the line and you could feel the sighs as if a huge weight had been lifted.  “You do not have to be good”.  What a simple yet profound statement.  In resolution the poem states “Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting, over and over announcing your place in the family of things.”  I found myself smiling and wanting to scream the line over and over again “You do not have to be good!”  I wanted Beau to hear me say it….  You do not have to be good.  It was this he strived for, never feeling as if he could be good enough.

It was a sunny day; the sky was a crystal clear blue when I heard this poem.  I pictured him, up there; with the geese… he has found his place.  We all have our place in this world.  Our lives transpire meaning and impact on others.  This simple message gets lost amongst our daily strive to produce, control and for some, survive our lives.   I left the group with another piece of silver lining…. knowing we all are imperfect and our place in the family of things is meaningful, purposeful and profound. His life was profound.


Your life too is profound. Never forget that all of God’s creation has a purpose including you.  Find yours no matter how simple and live it everyday.  Would you share your purpose with us, you might be surprised what you find out when you put it in words.



One thought on “You do not have to be Good

  1. What a beautiful post…as with all the Bblog posts. I know well the setting in which you  and a very dedicated team, Teach. Vulnerable ones abound. What a lovely message for them to hear, see and receive. So many with lives from dissarry to total chaos. My heart, Passion and Purpose: A Heart for the Disillusioned, Disenfranchised, Exploited & Those Who Serve Them. Like you folks at the BNote. Thank you. Bless you. 

    Still finding my place….Shandra

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